What am I allowed to do with my loved ones ashes?

Ashes are buried after a crematorium funeral. This page explains how your church can support you with this and offers links for more about what happens after a funeral.

A grave plot in a natural burial ground with wild flowers growing on it

If you have had a cremation service, then the final part will be burying the ashes. This might happen within a few days or weeks and the Church of England minister who took the funeral can lead a short service.

You can bury the ashes in the churchyard, or use the crematorium’s Garden of Remembrance.

Further information

  • Journey through Grief

    The funeral itself marks a particular moment as life changes after the death of someone you knew and love. As time goes on after the funeral, the experience of grief continues. Read on for some help and guidance about what grief might be like.

  • Helping others

    When news comes that someone special to someone you know has died, you want to help in someway. But it can be difficult to know the right thing to do. You may want to send a card, you may plan to go to the funeral, but there may be more that you can do. Find out here how you can support your friend in one of life’s hardest moments.

  • GraveTalk

    For those with big questions about death, dying and funerals, having someone to talk to can be invaluable. But how do you start those conversations, and with whom? There are a growing number of café spaces which bring people together to do just that – this page tells you more about GraveTalk, launched through the Church of England.